Marriage is not something we clone from someone else, including our parents. We need to realise that every marriage is as unique as the house that we live in. Same building materials, just each constructed differently in some way.
These are some of the areas we focus on in coaching and workshops. We keep it practical so you can apply it immediately.
Understand how you both communicate and how to get back on the same page without misreading each other.
Reduce tension by learning how to express offence without attacking, and how to repair after an argument.
Identify the fears that drive reactions and learn how to replace those patterns with truth and trust.
Grow emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy through healthy conversations and intentional connection.
Whether you want direct support, a book you can work through together, or a workshop experience, you can start here.
Sometimes you need outside input and a safe structure to navigate a season. Coaching is available via video call.
Work through proven tools together at your own pace. Physical book, digital book, and free PDF resource available.
Workshops are designed to equip couples with shared language and tools. Two versions available.
All resources are designed to help you strengthen your marriage practically and intentionally.
Real words from couples who have read The Marriage Toolbox.
“The Marriage Toolbox is a refreshingly honest and practical guide to building stronger relationships, written by David and Kim Jepsen. What sets this book apart is its down to earth tone. You can truly hear their voices as you read, which brings warmth and relatability to every chapter. Rather than offering vague advice, the Jepsens share seven clear, actionable skills to help couples strengthen their marriage. They cleverly use memorable tools like the Peace Pipe, Hourglass, Duct Tape, and Eraser to anchor key principles in a way that sticks. These metaphors are not only easy to recall, but they also bring a sense of lightness and accessibility to serious topics. Each chapter ends with practical Next Steps, which turn good intentions into meaningful change. Whether you’re newly married or decades in, this book has something valuable for every stage of the journey. The Marriage Toolbox is an engaging, useful, and genuinely helpful resource. David and Kim offer not just tools, but hope, and they do it with authenticity, clarity, and heart.”
“The Marriage Toolbox is a wonderful book seasoned with wisdom and practical application. As a soon to be married couple, we have loved reading this book together, and in doing so it has opened up many deep and lengthy conversations. These conversations have empowered us to know and understand each other more, strengthening our love and connection with one another. We are looking forward to returning to this book and the tools outlined within it in the years to come, to help strengthen our marriage.”
“This book is well written and easy to read. The authors provide examples from their own relationship as well as others which help in relating to the difficulties people can face in marriage or long term relationships. They provide practical tools and steps to assist couples in re building and restoring connection. I highly recommend this book.”
“This is a very easy book to read and offers extremely practical and realistic ideas for improving your relationship. It is backed up with real experiences and situations giving many insights and helpful advice. It’s not just another book about marriage, I encourage anyone to have a read and give it a go. I think you’ll like it.”
Two workshop options depending on your setting and time available. Both are enquiry based and can be hosted in churches, groups, or community settings.
Friday night introduces the seven tools. Saturday focuses on strategies that transform how you communicate, connect, and grow together.
A lighter version that still gives couples clear language, tools, and next steps for growth and connection.
Use the contact form below and select "Workshop happening near me". Tell us your location, preferred dates, and the type of group you are hosting (church, small group, or organisation). We’ll follow up with options, pricing, and next steps to make it easy to plan.
Marriage coaches and workshop facilitators based in Tauranga, New Zealand.
David and Kim Jepsen are passionate about helping couples build strong, healthy, and lasting relationships. Married for over 27 years, they draw from their own journey and years of experience mentoring couples through both the highs and the challenges of married life.
With over 20 years of experience supporting couples and more than nine years of pastoral leadership, David and Kim have walked closely with many marriages, offering encouragement, practical tools, and hope. Their approach is down to earth and focused on real life transformation.
They are the creators of The Marriage Toolbox workshop and authors of The Marriage Toolbox: Learning Seven Tools That Will Strengthen Your Marriage.
Although no longer pastoring, David and Kim continue their work through Enhanced Relationships, offering workshops, writing, and mentoring. David is also a registered marriage celebrant in New Zealand.
Based in New Zealand, they are proud parents of four children and remain committed to helping couples thrive in every season of life.
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